How Do I Get Over So Much Hurt?
Q: Deanna asks:
I’ve been hurt and cheated on so many times, how do I get past that and let someone love me with me loving that someone back?
A: Love Coach Rinatta Paries answers:
Deanna, there is no easy answer to your question, but here is the truthful answer.
First, you need to figure out why you allowed into your life people who would cheat on you and hurt you. Not that it was your fault, but you need to understand why it happened, so that you can prevent it from happening again. I have an eclass I created just for this purpose that you can purchase at my websites – it’s called PatternTracker.
Then you need to learn what a healthy relationship looks like and what a healthy man looks like, so that you can stop putting up with people who can’t give you the love you want. You should learn about healthy relationships and healthy men even if you are already starting to be involved with someone new – you don’t want to get hurt yet again. I also have created an eCourse to help people recognize what is healthy and find healthy people, and it’s available on my website – it’s called Whom Are You Dating.
Last, you need to let go of the hurt and pain from all of your past relationships, so that you can move unencumbered into the future. There is no course for this yet, but I can teach you how to let go of the past by working with you in individual coaching.
Even you, after being hurt and cheated on so many times, can have a healthy, happy, satisfying relationship. You just need to do some work to get there.
From the Heart,
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on June 20, 2006 @ 8:01 pm
how does one get over someone they love or think they love…is there an easy answer or is it based on time and working towardz a better goal or should i just keep getting drunk and hope the thought of the love fades from my mind….man i am confused on this subject and goin through alot of hurt plz help
on November 2, 2006 @ 7:13 am
im going thru the same thing but i realized if its meant to be it will be, you cant make someone love you back but you can only wait and hope that if its right it will be. you just have to give it time and the more you are away from that person the more they begin to think. if you chase them you show weakness, and you dont want that, its like letting them see you suffer while they get what they want. let go and wait for the other ones decision, until then there isnt anything else you can do but wait and move on.
on July 8, 2007 @ 5:45 pm
Hi there,
I have been with my partner and apart from a few hiccups along the way it has been good until now.
I have never got along with his mum and his parents have seperated and i get along with the dads side of the family just fine, the other day we were talking and he said his mum has made him choose between me and him, that broke my heart, i am lost confused and i cant move on i have devoted most of my life to him, i cant stand the fact of loosing him, we live together but he is living at his mums house at the moment what can i do to get past all this and try to prove to him how we can do it, i have started to drink and it is affecting my life and i feel him slipping away and away, i have tried the silent treatment and that dont work, as his mum is infulencing his decisions, what can i do i cant move on with out him.