And that is: eliminate the thinking/expressing of this verbiage: “I have done something wrong.” That alone will offset the words “I will be taken care of and things will work out well.”

“I have done something wrong” signifies first to the Self a negative emotion (and will stay with you until or unless the partner opens up - which now puts your feelings in the hands of another… what if that never happens or takes days/weeks/month?) AND it gives your partner some ‘license to ill.’

You now start out with “whatever is going on with you, it has to do with me and I’m responsible.”

Which is not true. You could not possible KNOW (not think, believe, feel, surmise, suspect or add any other word to this list beside know) what’s going on inside another human being.

Therefore, the words said to the partner to ‘get him to share’ (and getting someone else to do think feel something is not a principle aligned with freedom… we don’t ‘get’ someone to take action - this implies dominion over.) or better yet, bring pain to the forefront and share it together so that compassion and healing can take place (to resolve/end that pain in that moment because there’s always more)need to be re-thought.