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Here is an excerpt from an article titled “All is Well”, that I wrote for third age blog. You can read the whole article here.

“What if you were in a marriage that wasn’t working, and instead of being stressed and depressed you told yourself, and made yourself believe, that you will be taken care of and it will all turn out well? Perhaps you would stay calm through the crisis and get clarity about what you need to do in order to make the situation turn out well.

Or what if you were single and instead of having a negative reaction every time you date someone who is not for you, you told yourself that you will be taken care of and it will all turn out well? Perhaps you would just move on, unfazed, and keep meeting new people until you met the right one.”

This article generated the following question and my follow-up:

Q: Jaci asks:

On the relationship part of this - - - I recently tried the “All is well” thing. My fiancé never talks about his feelings so if he gets mad at me, I usually don’t know why. So I panic - when I see that he is acting different - it’s always so obvious that something is wrong and so I rack my brain trying to think: What did I say? What did I do? Did something happen that I didn’t notice? Etc. Well, when it happened the other day
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Q: Denise asks:

How do you know when someone wants to break up with you? How do you break up so you understand what happened? I recently went through a painful breakup with a man I had been involved with for eight months. I thought we were doing fine until towards the end he started to distance himself and finally told me after my questioning his behavior that he did not love me but did not want to break up. He thought we might continue and see if his feelings changed. I didn’t think that would work for me, and I told him I thought he wanted me to initiate the break up. The next day he told me it was over. Did I jump too soon? Should I have asked him some more questions?

A: Love Coach Rinatta answers:

Denise, I am sorry you got hurt. Perhaps getting more information on break ups will help you heal and move on.

When people are thinking about breaking up with their partner they usually do one or more of the following:
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