Comments on: How Do I Take Time Alone In a Relationship

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By: Kristen

Kristen — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 18:59:16 +0000

I’m there. I need my personal space and alone time, but my live-in boyfriend does not understand this. It’s gotten to the point where he feels like I’m ignoring him if I am reading the paper or a magazine, if I’m checking my email in the other room, or even if I fall asleep! He wants to be together and do things together all of the time. But I have many of my own interests and things I would like to persue. We’ve been together for about 9 months and unless he begins to lighten up, I’m not sure if I can make this relationship work.

By: Bobby Capps

Bobby Capps — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 21:41:06 +0000

I’d have to agree with Rinatta. Couples need alone time. You can’t spend one hundred percent of the time together or you’ll start resent each other.

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 18:18:36 +0000

Coming from the point of being the person who needs the alone time, and having a hard time having my partner understand why, yet be secure in us. I know that if I am not granted time to self, eventually, I will take it, apart from them indefinitely. For some, alone time is just a necessary part of replenishing. Like the cup gets too empty to keep giving, and the alone time replenishes it. I absolutely love my partner, and desire to spend the rest of my life together, but I have a basic need for alone time. Yet my partner struggles. It’s very hard.

By: Anna

Anna — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 22:08:35 +0000

I have recently talked to my bf about this as I have been going through depression and he has his own problems to deal with and he was stressing a lot. He asked me if we could have some more time to ourselves but reassured me that he still loved me and that he doesnt want to leave me but that we both have to stress less, and sort out what is going on with us. Im not sure how to feel because I feel like i am loosing him and that this is just a road to a slower break up. At the same time I love him so much and I want to be with him and for things to work out between us so maybe this time alone is what we need. He said we would still see each other and talk but less frequently so i just dont understand how this is going to work out or be different. Im just very confused.

By: Jay Krunszyinsky

Jay Krunszyinsky — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 23:24:57 +0000

Communicating one’s need to be alone is vital as long as this is done respectfully. Your partner should not feel paranoid about your request if you communicate your needs appropriately!

By: Gary

Gary — Tue, 05 Sep 2006 16:38:42 +0000

But, how much time?? If it is months then …is it fair to ur partner?

By: Cassandra Buchan

Cassandra Buchan — Wed, 18 Jan 2006 06:06:51 +0000

I agree with Rinatta. I have found, from personal experience, that not having alone time is detrimental to a relationship.