Comments on: Will he change with time?

By: Eva

Eva — Fri, 02 Jun 2006 04:16:31 +0000

What defines successful in his situation? It may or may not happen. It’s not worth wasting your love, time and money to find out if he doesn’t try and be there for you today. I’ve been there. I was with my then boyfriend, a musician, for six years. We had a child and got married. Through all of this he never realized how to be there for us. I was the breadwinner which isn’t necessarily a bad thing except he didn’t appreciate anything I did, and expected so much from me without giving anything in return. We got divorced.He’s still doing the same gigs he always was, and by the way, is very talented and great at what he does, but that doesn’t guarantee success. Just being together would’ve been enough. If he can’t even handle that, you should move on.

By: Genoveve

Genoveve — Sun, 08 Jan 2006 03:43:05 +0000

Again, I would listen to Rinatta’s comment. The moment I read your story Lauren, I related to it! For about 2 years I was also traped in a relationship where I wanted things to change. Even today I soemtimes wonder if whether I had have been more pattient things would have changed but you know what, the more patient I had been the longer it would have taken me to refind myself and pursue the things I wanted and which he far from being able to give at the time. We truly are responsible for our own lives, Lauren

By: Wyngard Jones

Wyngard Jones — Tue, 08 Nov 2005 06:48:44 +0000

Change is constant, but requires time. If you are patient enough, then you can still hope for change to happen. It is unfortunate that some things that our partners have are not really what we wanted. This reason makes us dream of change. Perhaps the thing to do is not to pressure him. He might feel so inclined and might end up losing hope. Just wait for things to happen and hope for the better. In a romantic relationship, changes will surely happen.